WHY WE STARTED BBU
A teen member of Hey U.G.L.Y. reported being thrown to the ground and repeatedly kicked in the face by a bully while 20 of his classmates stood around and did nothing to help. When we heard his story we contacted a friend at the police department who informed us that unless there were eye witnesses or video footage not much could be done other than his parents filing a report. It’s the same for schools. A principal can’t reprimand a student who bullies unless there’s proof or a witness.
WHY STUDENTS DON’T TRY TO HELP OR REPORT WHAT THEY SEE
Most of us think that stepping in will make the bully go after us. We also believe reporting a bully is snitching. That’s why we started Bullying Bystanders Unite.
The first thing we did was work with the police to develop rules to help you safely come to the aid of someone being bullied.
We then created a pledge drive.
After you read the safety rules below click here to take the pledge to show the young man who inspired this movement that the pain he suffered was not in vain.
BULLYING BYSTANDERS UNITE SAFETY RULES
PHYSICAL BULLYING SAFETY RULES
Rule #1: If you see ONE bully physically hurting someone and you are alone go to a safe place and call 911 then find an adult and ask them to help out.
Rule #2: If you see ONE bully physically hurting someone and you are with at least four friends have one immediately call 911. Have another quickly find an adult while the remaining two go to a safe place where they can witness the bullying but not be seen by the bully. If possible, use your cell phone to record the incident. Give the video footage to a trusted adult. DO NOT POST IT ON THE INTERNET.
If you see someone being physically bullied at school, you should tell your teacher, counselor, or another adult.
VERBAL/EMOTIONAL BULLYING SAFETY RULES
Rule #1: If you are alone, walk over to the person being bullied and tell them you need their help to do something. Then take them away from the bully as calmly, but quickly as you can. Take them to a trusted adult and report what you saw.
Rule #2: If you are in a group, form a circle around the person being bullied and tell them you want to hang out with them. Then get them away from the bully. Take them to a trusted adult and report what you saw.
“Be careful not to enter into the struggle unless you can be assisted by others,” advises Police Chief, Mark Swistek. “Be the best witness you can be by observing or recording the occurrence and other necessary information. This rule also applies to adults. If you’re unsure of your abilities or cannot be assisted by others, we encourage witnesses to immediately call 911 and stand by to provide us with the information related to the incident.
You can also report anonymously.”
SCHOOL DANGER ALERT
If you hear someone talking about doing harm to anyone at your school or bringing a weapon to school immediately report it to your principal or school counselor. If you want to be anonymous let them know and also tell your parents.
You could be saving lives!
IMPORTANT NEWS: YOU CAN SNITCH CONFIDENTIALLY.
CALL THE TIP LINE AT YOUR LOCAL POLICE DEPARTMENT.
UNDERSTANDING THE BULLY
Youth who bully usually do it because they are being bullied by someone else and they feel powerless.
Bullying someone they consider weaker gives them the sense of having power.
DON’T EGG ON THE BULLY
Sometimes bystanders egg the bully on which is mean and hurtful AND makes the bystander just as responsible as the person bullying. Egging on the bully makes him/her feel cool and makes the victim feel worthless.
T H E P L E D G E
I PLEDGE to help any student who is being bullied by following the Bullying Bystanders Unite safety rules as shown above. I further pledge to help my friends understand that IF SNITCHING COULD SAVE A LIFE THEN WE SHOULD SNITCH. If it were a friend of mine, I’d want bystanders to report what they saw because, authorities’ hands are tied without eyewitnesses or film footage from our cell phones.
1. Start a pledge drive at your school, church, organization or business.
Email PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org or call us at 219-778-2011 and we’ll
email our pledge sheet to you.
2. Email or call us for free tools (Student scripts so they can teach younger students;
mayoral proclamation form, PDF of pamphlets.)
3. Put a link to BullyingBystandersUnite.org on your website.
4. Support this movement through donations and product purchases.
CHECK OUT THESE LINKS FOR VIDEOS & STORIES
VIDEO created by New Hampshire youth that shows how bystanders impact a bullying situation.
READ letter by a young man who saw American Idol Contestant, Devyn Rush, being bullied
when she was in middle school and how he wished he had done something. You’ll LOVE it!