CELEBRITY QUOTES ON BULLYING, SELF-ESTEEM, BODY IMAGE, DATING & MORE.
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Body Image
Madonna
“I always felt like I was a freak when I was growing up and that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t fit in anywhere.”Jillian Michaels
“In eighth grade, I weighed 175 pounds and my nose was the size of a softball. Once, I was sitting at lunch and got surrounded by a bunch of kids who let me have it about how ugly I was – my unibrow, the fat rolling over my jeans. I was pure hell. My mom had to pull me out and put me in another school.”Pink
“Feeling beautiful to me is when I feel good in my leather pants and my husband grabs my butt. Or when I’m sitting on a mat and my daughter runs to me with complete joy. Beautiful has never been my goal. Joy is my goal- to feel healthy and strong and powerful and useful and engaged and intelligent and in love. It’s about joy now.”Katy Perry
“But I’ve realized that it’s time for me to show my audience that you don’t have to be perfect to achieve your dreams. Because nobody relates to being perfect. I’m ok with picking my nose. I’m ok with having bad dance moves. I’m ok with having horrible lower teeth. That’s what makes me me, and for some reason it’s worked out all right.”Meryl Streep
“Don’t waste so much time thinking about how much you weigh. There is no more mind-numbing, boring, idiotic, self-destructive diversion from the fun of living.”Miranda Cosgrove
“What makes a breakup easier is knowing that you will be better off and eventually your life will be easier because you don’t have to stress about the relationship anymore. I think people are in really unhealthy relationships, and you need to just step away. I’m not into drama.”Aimee Teegarden
“In high school, I never had the right clothes. I don’t think I ever wore makeup until I was 16 and that was just mascara.”Candice Huffine
“We give so much of ourselves to others when we should really work on our relationship with ourselves. Self-care, without the hashtag or face mask, is essential. Look in the mirror and say, ‘You got this!’ Meditate. Exercise. Whatever. Be kind to yourself every day.”Halsey
I’m 23. When I came into the music industry, I had somebody do my makeup, but I flipped out. People forget that a musician and a model are very different. A model’s job is to play a character, but as a musician, I’m just myself every day. I can’t have someone who doesn’t know me coming on board and changing my face. I’m singing songs that are personal, from the bottom of my heart. My fans need to recognize the person singing to them, you know? That’s just how it is for me. So I started doing my makeup myself. I don’t feel like I need to be wearing that much. For me personally, I like to find ways to play up my existing beauty rather than trying to change what my face looks like.”Winnie Harlow
“I thought my skin wasn’t beautiful enough to wear shorts or open-toed shoes, but my idea of ‘beautiful enough’ came from not seeing enough representation of someone like myself, that would’ve been so powerful for me. I hope to offer all young women a sense of hope and change, that one type of look is not better than another. It’s ok to be different and seeing that is massive for a child.”Brooke Shields
“Growing up under such scrutiny led me to feel insecure about my looks. When I was younger, I never loved being in a swimsuit because I picked apart the way I looked in them. It took me years to separate the opinions of others from my own.”Emma Stone
“My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to each ourselves, so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people.”Demi Lovato
“Don’t work out because you think you ‘need’ to. Do it because your body deserves love, respect and healthy attention.”Penelope Cruise
“I feel most beautiful when I’m serene, relaxed, and present and I’m able to have gratitude for all that I have. That’s when beauty can be there. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter what my hair looks like or what makeup I put on.”Jonah Hill
“The journey is self-acceptance and self-love. I believe everybody has this snapshot of themselves. It’s a snapshot that they kinda want to hide from the world. And mine was being like this 14-year old over weight kid kinda feeling ugly to the world wanting to fit in with this group of skateboarders. People are all just different but they hurt just as much. It was a liberating way to spend these last few years figuring out who I am as a person, how do you love yourself, and how do you be yourself and be the artist that you are with out apologizing for it”Anne Hathaway
“When I was 14, my face looked like a potato and a chipmunk had a baby and it was me.”Emmy Rossum
“Growing up, I had short, curly hair, and I envied everyone who had long, soft, silky, straight hair. But over the years I’ve been encouraged to embrace the reality of what makes me unique.”Pink
“I wish someone would have told me when I was 13 that my green hair and braces, and my freckles all over my face, and my attitude, it was all going to work for me one day. And my God, has it ever.”Mandy Moore
“It’s a combination of getting older and wiser and going through the hard knocks of a divorce. You realize, I’m not going to take anyone’s shit. It’s emboldened me. There’s power in saying no and in asking for what you deserve. There is power in knowing your value.”Hugh Jackman
“I want to tell my kids that it doesn’t matter what sexual orientation you are, it doesn’t matter what job you do, it doesn’t matter if your hair is straight or curly, if you’re tall or short, man or woman, what race you are. What defines you as a human being is underneath all that”Mandy Moore
“Although I’ve become a lot more comfortable with myself, everyone has their self-doubts and insecurities.”Tom Brady
Gina Rodriguez
Gal Gadot
“Whatever makes you feel more comfortable with yourself empowers you. Beauty comes from the inside.”Miranda Kerr
Olesya
“Beauty wasn’t about getting boys to like me; it was about not conforming– in my glitter liner, I felt untouchable.” Teen Vogue MagazineDanielle Brooks
“Regardless of how much melanin we have, or how many pimples, or how curly or straight our hair is, it’s really about what we have inside of us that makes us who we are. Sometimes I’ll look at myself and be like dang girl you got a lot of stretch marks. But then I’m like, that’s just the road map of my strength.” People MagazineKofi Siriboe
“I was chubby with a chubby-kid complex, I really came into my own.” People MagazineAdele
Jillian Michaels
“Giving yourself a compliment doesn’t mean that you are better than another person, it just means that you respect yourself.”
Cara Delevingne
“I was always embarrassed about them (eyebrows) when I was a child, so it’s nice that [the positive response] helps other girls accept theirs. Now I could talk about brows all day. I feel that some days you wake up and you’re having a bad day and you just have to try to remember that it will be all right. It’s a daily mantra. It’s not about trying to be weird. W’re all weird. It’s about being who you are and not trying to be anyone else.” PEOPLE
Peyton List
“Depending on the day, my skin can be completely clear…or a blemish-ridden mess. My hair is either sleek and shiny…or dull and frizzy. And sometimes, no matter how I might appear in a picture, I just feel crummy about the way I look. I can easily tell when a photographer has Photoshopped my face or body-you’d e surprised at how often it happens. It’s so sad when girls look at a highly edited picture of me and say, “Why don’t I look like her?” Hello, I’ve een airbrushed! So instead of comparing, I’m trying to focus on being the best version of myself. That might mean I wear makeup sometimes (it’s fun!) and use my favorite tricks for taking good selfies(natural lighting is key). But it also means that on the days I feel like waking up and rolling out with my face completely bare and my hair in a messy bun, I’m going to do that too-because I’ve realized there’s no better feeling than when you actually woke up like this” Girls Life
Jordyn Woods
“Depending on the day, my skin can be completely clear…or a blemish-ridden mess. My hair is either sleek and shiny…or dull and frizzy. And sometimes, no matter how I might appear in a picture, I just feel crummy about the way I look. I can easily tell when a photographer has Photoshopped my face or body-you’d e surprised at how often it happens. It’s so sad when girls look at a highly edited picture of me and say, “Why don’t I look like her?” Hello, I’ve een airbrushed! So instead of comparing, I’m trying to focus on being the best version of myself. That might mean I wear makeup sometimes (it’s fun!) and use my favorite tricks for taking good selfies(natural lighting is key). But it also means that on the days I feel like waking up and rolling out with my face completely bare and my hair in a messy bun, I’m going to do that too-because I’ve realized there’s no better feeling than when you actually woke up like this” Girls Life
Shay Mitchell
“I was always trying to be something that I wasn’t. As I got older, I started to realize that what I was born with is what I should be celebrating.” Teen Vogue
Ryan Destiny
“As a dark-skinned girl, I have many things that I’ve gone through that I wish more people would have addressed so I wouldn’t have felt so alone. I just want other girls to look up to me in that way. My goal is to break the boundaries and everything a person things a black woman should be. I just want to keep changing the game.” Teen Vogue
Topher Grace
TOPHER’s great advice for teens
“In high school I was skinny, and really short too — I like to think that girls wanted to like me, but couldn’t because of that.
Every teenager should find something that scares them [and do it]. If you’re into sports, try out for a play; if you’re into pottery, try out for football. If I’d been scared to try out for ’70s, I wouldn’t have made all these great friends and had such a great time and learned about this whole other side of myself.” Cosmo Girl
Minnie Driver
MINNIE DRIVER’s self-assessment is sadly moo-ving
“I was an ugly cow when I was younger.” In Touch
Kate Winslet
KATE on being mentally bullied
“When I was a teenager, I was very overweight. I was 190 pounds when I was sixteen. And as an actress I wanted to play Alice in Alice in Wonderland … And, so, over the course of a year, I very, very sensibly lost the majority of the weight. I changed the way I thought about food and my body.” Vogue
In the March 7 issue of US Weekly, Kate said classmates called her Blubber. She has said she was “mentally bullied. “…..I would just sit there and think, ‘Let this make you stronger.’
Drew Barrymore
DREW BARRYMORE on happiness, body image, relationships and more
“I think happiness is a choice. I believe luck is your attitude. It sounds like a really annoying bumper sticker. But there is such a great truth in that. You choose how you want to feel about what happens to you. I could have been a miserable failure. I haven’t had anybody looking over me, and I’ve found my own way through optimistic exploration and fire-burning mistakes. I am a very happy person with an extraordinary life, so I must be doing a lot of things right. I really believe when you peel away the layers, the worlds is a beautiful place filled with beautiful people.” Elle
In an article in the February 23 issue of People magazine when asked about her life after the house fire and the demise of her marriage to Tom Green, Drew said, “…..All of a sudden I was free to be exactly who I wanted to be rather than who I thought I had to be for anyone else or anything else.” Did you know that Drew was called “Fatso” by the boys when she was in school? Yes she was. When asked about her wild days of drinking she said, “…..I’d been suffocating myself with trying to be such a good person that I realized I was making myself miserable.” “…..I can feel beautiful on the inside-and I can tell that shows on the outside. It’s amazing to me.”
“Maybe it’s different for every person, but my personal downfall in a relationship is losing a sense of myself, getting too involved in their world and their opinions and their lifestyle. I always have to struggle to be my own person, whether it’s as stupid as what I like to eat for breakfast or as big as how to conduct myself as an individual. What’s saving me in this relationship is the fact that I feel like I’m remaining my own person.” She also said, “…..If we could just admit our faults, at least we could be human. I think what became more important to me was not how other people saw me but how I saw myself. I do run a company. I am consistent at work. My bosses think that I will show up on time, and I’m reliable to them. I can respect myself. That ended up becoming the important journey for me. And, of course, I’ll always be a bit of a ridiculous clown, ’cause I just can’t help it.” Glamour
“I think that it is so important to believe in yourself and believe in your empowerment and not wait for someone to rescue you and do it for you. That you can go out there and create it all for yourself.” In The Actor’s Studio
“During my teen years … I was awkward; I had braces; I was overweight. I was always teased. It’s so funny because it’s always those kids who get beaten up in school who end up triumphing. It’s almost like you need that to build character-even though it’s painful to go through it.” Teen People
Christina Ricci
CHRISTINA RICCI on feeling ugly
“I got ugly. Throughout my childhood, my favorite [rejection] was: She looks too healthy. They wanted that really gaunt, runaway girl kind of look. I was, like, Mom, I thought you could never be too healthy. She (Christina’s mom) said, “Ignore them.”” Movieline Magazine
“I was really fat for a year. I was ugly. People would come up to me in the street and say, “Weren’t you Wednesday in The Addams Family? God, you’ve gotten so fat. I felt I was a separate person from the person they were talking about, and I’d want to take them aside and scold them: You can’t talk to me like that. Being overweight made it so hard for me to get films. I didn’t work for a year because of it, and it was devastating.” Interview Magazine
“As a teenager, I didn’t like to look in mirrors. I’d put collages and stuff over them; left the lights off in the bathroom. Those are the years when I feel like you hate yourself or love yourself.” Elle Girl
Cameron Diaz
CAMERON on body image
“When I was growing up, I hated my body, I was extremely, extremely skinny as a child for years I was seventy-nine pounds, and much taller than everyone else.
When I was in junior high, people thought I was sick. They used to call me Skeletor, or Skinny Bones Jones and all those other horrible names”
Leonardo Dicaprio
Leonardo unpopular? Imagine that!
“I was entirely an unpopular student. I think teenage life is filled with narcissism and giant mood swings that are unnecessary and constantly inflating problems to phenomenally unrealistic proportions.” GQ
“We all have horrible fears and insecurities that we need to overcome. Mine came from never feeling accepted by any group, never being received. In school I was about a foot shorter than anyone else, always jumping up and getting laughs-a little smart-ass with a big mouth. School was like this wild safari where I could make a name for myself, but it never really worked. They just basically looked at you as the class clown and dismissed you. I never belonged. Parade
Liv Tyler
LIV TYLER on losing weight
“…..I’ve been told if I lose weight, I’d have more work, but I refuse to submit [to that]. To the rest of the world I’m slim, and I like the way I am.” Glamour
Debra Messing
“I was not asked at all. I didn’t go to my senior prom. I often danced by myself on the side.
“Growing up I was a string bean-skinny and tall-and I felt self-conscious about that. I worried about how skinny I was, the fact that I had no chest, my frizzy hair. When I started to work in television, makeup artists would point out flaws I’d never even noticed before, and it made me feel even more insecure.”
Ben Stiller
BEN STILLER wants you to treat each other kindly
“I was pretty insecure [around girls] because I had bad skin. Not really bad skin, but I had pimples. It affected my sense of who I was. It’s such a silly thing when you look back, but at the time, it drove me crazy. …..[High School] can be brutal because of the cliques and the way kids treat each other. But stick it out — it gets better. Things that seem like they mean the world at the moment, you’ll look back on and realize weren’t that important. It sounds like an after — school special, but it’s true.
Paula Abdul
“I was like any other teenage girl who wanted to be someone I’m not, and that was defined by what boys liked and what images of beauty the media perpetrated. Plus, when I was 7 years old, my ballet teacher said that I didn’t have a dancer’s body. That rang in my head as “I’m not normal; my body is wrong.” It affected me in profound ways. I’m a strong girl, but I’ve always been a believer that when I can’t manage, I surrender. I get myself to a place where someone can help me. I’m prouder of overcoming bulimia than of anything else I’ve done – more than having a number one record or selling out a concert. Celebrate yourself, embrace your struggle, and don’t walk with shame, because nothing is as bad as you probably think it is. When I got through bulimia, I stopped living as a prisoner. Let your body fall into its natural state. Every minute you stay enthralled with a diet or get caught up in how you think you should look, you lose, because you’re not enjoying life.”
Queen Latifah
“It was a very vulnerable time going from being insecure about my body and who I am to becoming comfortable with me. I had to tune out what the hell everybody else had to say about who I was. When I was able to do that, I felt free.” Parade
“I wish every woman would love themselves and embrace what they were given naturally. I’ve been fortunate to have the career I want without changing what I look like. If [producers] ever demanded I lose so much weight that I’m not even a remnant of who I am, then hell no, I’m not going to do that. Besides, there’d be a lot of girls out there who wouldn’t be inspired had I not been that girl with a little more weight who carried herself with that self-confidence.” In Style
Uma Thurman
“One of the things that struck me at fashion shows is how great these incredibly thin women look in photographs but how in real life it’s too thin. They would be more attractive if they were a little heavier. And I actually don’t think this desire to be rail thin is as pandemic aesthetically as the fashion world presents it to be. I don’t think men prefer women to look like that.”
Tyra Banks
“The modeling industry goes in and out of different styles and body types that are supposed to be hot at that moment. And right now, it’s not so much the heroin-chic, because the models are looking a little bit healthier to me–and when I say healthy, I don’t even mean body type, I mean just facial pigment and stuff like that. They have blush on their cheeks now again and they look a little healthier. But still such a stick, skinny ideal–which would have worked for me when I was 11 years old because I was 98 pounds and my same height and now I’m 130. So I was really, really thin and insecure. It would have worked well for me to look at that in a magazine and see that that was called beautiful. But the majority of little girls aren’t that way. The majority of them are struggling with their weight and are the opposite way. So I just think it’s important to show different body types and say that they are all beautiful which is not really what they do. When I lost all this weight–I went to an all-black private elementary school–and all the kids used to call me all kinds of horrible names. Then when I went to a mixed junior high school and all of my white friends would be like, ‘Oh my god, you’re so gorgeous. You’re so skinny. ‘By the way, I looked disgusting, I looked sick. But they’d be like ‘You’re so skinny. I wish I could be like you.’ And all my black friends would be like, ‘Girl, eat a pork chop! You are so skinny.’ And the white guys would be like ‘Tyra’s cute’ and the black guys would be like, ‘She’s too skinny. She needs some booty. I don’t want her.’ So it’s so cultural. And it’s sad because women, when it comes to their body types, are ruled by men in their culture. So white women want to be super skinny because that’s what white men seem to be attracted to. And the black guys want more meat.” GQ
Nicole Kidman
Nora Ephron said, “She (Nicole Kidman) told me that as a teen she was tall and gawky and covered with freckles. She would think, why does this body have to represent me?” Glamour Magazine
Kirstie Alley
“I think that we’re all sort of sick of being judged on how we look no matter if we’re too skinny. It seems you can’t be just right anymore. You’re either too fat or too skinny too old or too young too ethnic or too not, you know. You rarely go wow that girl’s just beautiful.” Today Show
Salma Hayak
Salma urges fans to not be impressed with her:
“In my world, you have to be so beautiful, so skinny, so rich, so famous – and I don’t believe you really have to be any of those things. You simply have to be who you are. I do have thighs and a butt. I have cellulite. Don’t be too impressed with me. Don’t try to dress like me or wear your hair like mine. Find your own style. Don’t spend your savings trying to be someone else. You’re not more important, smarter, or prettier because you wear a designer dress. I get them free and I’m too lazy to go out and look for my own. I, a rich girl from Mexico, came here with designer clothes. And one day, when I was starving in an apartment in Los Angeles, I looked at my Chanel blouses and said, “If only I could pay the rent with one of these.” O magazine
Celebrities Who Were Bullied
Madonna
“I always felt like I was a freak when I was growing up and that there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t fit in anywhere.”Jillian Michaels
“In eighth grade, I weighed 175 pounds and my nose was the size of a softball. Once, I was sitting at lunch and got surrounded by a bunch of kids who let me have it about how ugly I was – my unibrow, the fat rolling over my jeans. I was pure hell. My mom had to pull me out and put me in another school.”Zach Galifianakis
“There is no greater healer than laughter.”Ellen DeGeneres
“I don’t like to make fun of people, it’s a form of bullying. I’ve been the butt of jokes before, a punch line, and that just gave me more fuel to say I’ll never do it.”Daniella Perkins
“I used to be really insecure about my curls. In school, a lot of girls had really straight hair and they would be like, ‘Why does your hair look like that way? It’s so frizzy.’ I felt really different and awkward about it, so I went through a phase of straightening my hair every single day.”Drake
“I always try to remind people of their beauty and their good qualities. People do love you and people do care, and no bully is worth taking over you life.”Suzanne Somers
“I believed wrongly that if I could just be perfect he, my father, would love me enough to not have a drink. At night when alcohol made my Dad especially violent, we would all get hurt physically or emotionally. The booze made him act viciously and say terrible things; “You’re stupid, hopeless, worthless, you’re nothing, you’re a big zero.” Sadly, his rants became my reality. I believed I was what he said.”Angelina Jolie
“Know yourself, and look at the people who love you, like your family. You know you are not what the bully says. Don’t change”Tom Brady
Tiffany Haddish
Julianne Hough
“I got bullied in high school big time. I had just come back from London and was the new kid. People looked at me like, she thinks she’s all that. And because I didn’t know how to talk to them, maybe I did come across that way? I don’t know. I got asked to prom by a guy, and he ended up ditching me that day because the girls told him to do it. They made up rumors when I was on a choir trip that I did naughty things. And then I got invited to a party when I was 15, and my dad took me there because I couldn’t drive –but it was an abandoned house. I was like maybe they’re in the back, and my dad was like I don’t think they are sweetheart.” Red Book MagazineMisty Copeland
Misty Copeland on being criticized by others: “Once you accept yourself for who you really are, there’s only so much you can do. It has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with the person doing the criticizing.” People MagazineAmy Poehler
Kesha
Winona Ryder
“I was wearing an old Salvation Army shop boy’s suit. As I went to the bathroom I heard people saying, ‘Hey, f*****.’ They slammed my head into a locker. I fell to the ground and they started to kick the s**t out of me. I had to have stitches. The school kicked me out, not the bullies. Years later, I went to a coffee shop and I ran into one of the girls who’d kicked me, and she said, ‘Winona, Winona, can I have your autograph?’ And I said, ‘Do you remember me? Remember in seventh grade you beat up that kid?’ And she said, ‘Kind of.’ And I said, ‘That was me. Go f*** yourself.’” Huffington Post
Sandra Bullock
“I’d come back [to school] from Europe and I looked like a clown compared to the cool way the other students looked and dressed. So I got my ass whooped a little bit… Kids are mean, and the sad thing is that I can still remember the first and last names of every one of those kids who were mean to me!” Huffington Post
Demi Lovato
“At 12 years old, I was bullied in school. Girls were calling me fat, so I thought,’That’s the reason I don’t have any friends.’ So I stopped eating. I became very weight-conscious, and I lost 30 lbs. I went down to 95 lbs. I’ve battled depression from a young age. I never found out until I went into treatment that I am bipolar [a disorder that causes dramatic and sometimes violent mood swings.] At first I was like, ‘What does that even mean?’ But looking back, it makes sense. There were times when I was so manic I was writing seven songs in one night…that’s why I wasn’t happy when everything in my life was great. I’m being treated for it with medication and therapy.” People Magazine
Anne Hathaway
Anne told a sympathetic Ellen DeGeneres that she couldn’t put the words she’d read out of her mind when she was being cyberbullied.
“And then I realized why I couldn’t was I hadn’t learned to love myself yet. I hadn’t gotten there. And if you don’t love yourself when someone else says horrible things to you, part of you is always going to believe them. So, then I was like, okay, I don’t want to believe these people. I don’t want to agree with them on any level. I want to figure out who I am. I want to learn who I am. I don’t want to feel like I’m fragile every time I leave the house because I’m so dependent on what other people think about me. ‘I just took a step back, and as Matthew McConaughey, my co-star in Interstellar, would say, “I just kept living.” And, it’s been a really cool journey. ‘I feel like I arrived in a place where maybe not every minute of every day, but way more than I used to, I have a tremendous amount of love and compassion for everyone else. ‘And best of all I have it for myself, which I never enjoyed before.” The Ellen DeGeneres Show
Blake Shelton
“Don’t you just love bullies on line? Little chickens that have their laptops at home and they hide behind. It used to make me so mad. Now I know they’re the ones that we should feel sorry for.” The Voice
Mark Ruffalo
MARK should have had his HULK skills in High School 🙂
“When I was in high school I had cystic acne and was a little overweight.
People made fun of my last name all the time: Buffalo Breath, Buffalo Fart, Buffalo Lips. It was an ongoing buffalo joke.”
Taye Diggs
TAYE DIGGS – was called names?
“There was an incident where I was playing softball in gym class, and I went up to bat and the pitcher was a more popular kid in school. As he was pitching, he screamed out to the rest of the players on the field, “Nerd!” three times in a row, as loud as he could.” Jane
Tina Fey
“I was a mean girl. I had a gift for coming up with the meanest possible thing to say in any situation. Well, at my high school — a huge public school in a suburb of Philadelphia — there were a few girls who were kind of “famous.” Everyone knew who they were dating and what parties they went to. They weren’t the prettiest girls or the ones with money. They were just randomly anointed. I was an honor student, and I was in a ton of activities — the newspaper, drama club, the tennis team … My friends and I didn’t really date or go to cool parties, so we made jokes about those who did. To be honest, we felt kind of rejected, and when you don’t feel confident about yourself, you may look for flaws in somebody else to make you feel better. Looking back, I can see the mean-girl thing for what it is: a waste of energy. But that’s not much comfort if you’re the target. The hardest thing is to free yourself from caring what someone says about you. But it brings big freedom if you do it.”
Dating
Jennifer Lopez
“Here’s the thing with relationships that nobody tells you: You’re not going to find one person where everything is always going to be perfect – that’s bull. You have to agree to disagree. You have to work at a relationship, and you have to agree to disagree. You have to find someone who is willing to work out the kinks with you and with them. Communication is everything; it’s the only thing. If your communication game is strong, you can get through the tough stuff. But if it’s not, the littlest thing can bring the relationship down.”Ariana Grande
“The biggest lesson I’ve learned about dating is you need to be with someone who makes you feel like a better version of the best version you are, and you need to be able to be yourself in front of whomever you’re with.”Miranda Cosgrove
“What makes a breakup easier is knowing that you will be better off and eventually your life will be easier because you don’t have to stress about the relationship anymore. I think people are in really unhealthy relationships, and you need to just step away. I’m not into drama.”Austin Butler
“Don’t worry so much about what the other person is thinking [about you].”Nicole Kidman
“Real love happens not when everything is going well but when things are going badly. It’s when human beings come together, if they’re going to, in a far deeper way. You’re then having to work together, and the ‘together’ is what it’s about. Keith and I talk about that, because that ultimately is the definition of marriage and union and commitment. “Faith Hill
“We’re both human beings. It’s not all peachy and rosy. We don’t work to be in love, but sometimes we don’t get along. I think you’ve got to really like the person you are with, and he has to be the one you want to hang out with more than anybody else.”Patrick Schwarzenegger
“I’ve had relationships that didn’t work out, but I try to look forward. Stuff happens, but ultimately, it’ll make me a better man or husband. There will always be hiccups, but it’s about how you bounce back.”Nicki Minaj
“As soon as I realized I could actually live and breathe with out having a boyfriend, something clicked in me.”Amy Schumer
Amy Schumer’s: “The girl with the lower back tattoo.”
Faith Hill
People Magazine
Nick Jonas
George Clooney
Will Smith
Hunter Hayes
Chris Pine
“One relationship lesson I had to learn was to listen. Some people do that naturally, but I didn’t. If you shut up for a minute and listen to your partner, whether it’s in life or in the bedroom, you can learn so much.” Cosmo MagazineJosh Hutcherson
“There’s a bad boy thing that some women are attracted to. But I’m not typically attracted to those women. I think being nice has worked to my advantage. It helps you connect, whether that’s just communicating better or falling in love.” Cosmo MagazineJason Derulo
“I fall in love with personality, and I love a woman who’s not overbearing. I like intelligence –someone who is ambitious and has goals for me as well.” People MagazineNev Schulman
“Men aren’t attracted to women who sell themselves short and put up with being mistreated. In fact, it’s the opposite. When you hold your own and know yourself, that’s when men take you seriously .” Cosmo MagazineOrlando Bloom
“It’s better to set an example for kids and show them that (breakups) don’t have to be about hate.” People MagazineAdrian Grenier
“A lot of times, insecurities beget rejection. It’s not about how good-looking you are. It’s attractive when you love yourself.” Cosmo MagazineEd Sheeran
Jennifer Lopez
Zac Efron
“I didn’t think much about settling down until recently. Now that I’m getting closer to my 30s, I’m around some great relationships and I’ve seen expert couples at work. I’m realizing that you have to find your own happiness before you can make somebody else happy.
I try to stay off my phone as much as possible. It’s on silent and the vibrate is off all day. People sometimes hate me for it! But I’m just not a pro at DMing and all that. Forget Twitter, forget Instagram. Let’s just chill and be real. Enjoy the moment.” Cosmopolitan Magazine
Matt Damon
Matt’s sage advice to us all
“It’s just better to be yourself than to try to be some version of what you think the other person wants.” Cosmo Men
Drew Barrymore
DREW BARRYMORE on happiness, body image, relationships and more
“I think happiness is a choice. I believe luck is your attitude. It sounds like a really annoying bumper sticker. But there is such a great truth in that. You choose how you want to feel about what happens to you. I could have been a miserable failure. I haven’t had anybody looking over me, and I’ve found my own way through optimistic exploration and fire-burning mistakes. I am a very happy person with an extraordinary life, so I must be doing a lot of things right. I really believe when you peel away the layers, the worlds is a beautiful place filled with beautiful people.” Elle
In an article in the February 23 issue of People magazine when asked about her life after the house fire and the demise of her marriage to Tom Green, Drew said, “…..All of a sudden I was free to be exactly who I wanted to be rather than who I thought I had to be for anyone else or anything else.” Did you know that Drew was called “Fatso” by the boys when she was in school? Yes she was. When asked about her wild days of drinking she said, “…..I’d been suffocating myself with trying to be such a good person that I realized I was making myself miserable.” “…..I can feel beautiful on the inside-and I can tell that shows on the outside. It’s amazing to me.”
“Maybe it’s different for every person, but my personal downfall in a relationship is losing a sense of myself, getting too involved in their world and their opinions and their lifestyle. I always have to struggle to be my own person, whether it’s as stupid as what I like to eat for breakfast or as big as how to conduct myself as an individual. What’s saving me in this relationship is the fact that I feel like I’m remaining my own person.” She also said, “…..If we could just admit our faults, at least we could be human. I think what became more important to me was not how other people saw me but how I saw myself. I do run a company. I am consistent at work. My bosses think that I will show up on time, and I’m reliable to them. I can respect myself. That ended up becoming the important journey for me. And, of course, I’ll always be a bit of a ridiculous clown, ’cause I just can’t help it.” Glamour
“I think that it is so important to believe in yourself and believe in your empowerment and not wait for someone to rescue you and do it for you. That you can go out there and create it all for yourself.” In The Actor’s Studio
“During my teen years … I was awkward; I had braces; I was overweight. I was always teased. It’s so funny because it’s always those kids who get beaten up in school who end up triumphing. It’s almost like you need that to build character-even though it’s painful to go through it.” Teen People
John Mayer
JOHN can’t be with anyone who manipulates
“I couldn’t be with someone who uses manipulation to get what she wants. If you need my attention, just tell me. I’ll do the same.
And smoking. If she was trying to quit, that would be okay, but I couldn’t date someone who was oblivious to the fact that it’s a nasty habit. Cosmopolitan
Brad Pitt
Brad gives the secret on what girls should do to attract a guy:
“It’s a misconception that a girl has to do something to catch a guy’s attention. It just happens. There are no tricks. In fact, when you have to get tricky, it’s not worth it. You know what makes a guy take notice? If you don’t let him disrespect you. If some guy makes a stupid remark and a girl doesn’t let it get to her because she knows who she is – then she’s won. “
The reporter then asked Brad …What advice would you give teens about resisting peer pressure? He replied: “I’m probably the wrong person to ask. I believe in exploration-but smart exploration, not dangerous. If you’re feeling pressured to try certain things that don’t feel right to you, go with your gut instincts. It’ll never steer you wrong.” Teen People
Nelly
Nelly reveals how a girl can win him over
“…..Self-conscious people tend to throw things off because when you’re around them, you become uncomfortable, too. You become scared of saying something that might affect their vibe. If someone can laugh at themselves, you know you’re going to be able to get along with them.” Twist
Jason Dooley
Jason spills what he likes in a girl:
“A girl’s smile is always going to catch my attention. Every girl has a great smile, so if you just show it, I’ll notice it for for sure. But mostly it’s about being yourself. I don’t like it when girls try to be too funny or overly flirty.”
Enrique Iglesias
“I’m not keen on girls who are too snobby or arrogant-that’s a real turnoff for me. I really like girls who are natural and down to earth.” TWIST
Bruce Willis
When asked if he was dating anyone Bruce said, “No. I actually said these words aloud for the first time this year. I’m comfortable being alone. I’m comfortable being single. I may fall in love again, but-for those kids who are listening to Bruce Willis for love advice – any relationship that isn’t founded on friendship is just doomed.” People
Emotional Awareness
Julia Roberts
“We’ve all been broken at some point. Forgiving ourselves or another person helps us move forward.”Selena Gomez
“I’ve messed up a lot and learned lessons. I’m not perfect. I’m human. I make mistakes. I try my best to be a good person for myself, the kids who watch our show and the people who give me my job. But I’m just myself.”Selena Gomez
“I used to be so concerned about someone disliking me or what people were saying about me on the Internet. It’s ridiculous to worry about that. You should be focusing on family and the wonderful things you have in your life. My favorite quote is one that Jennifer Stone put on Twitter: ‘Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. And small minds discuss people.'”Zach Galifianakis
“There is no greater healer than laughter.”Ellen Degeneres
“I moved out of L.A., went into severe depression, started seeing a therapist and had to go on antidepressants for the first time in my life, It was scary and lonely. I can’t believe I cam back from that point.”Gisele Buendchen
“There were a lot of things that you go through in your life that you prefer not to remember because they’re too painful. But knowing what I know now, I realized that when there is acceptance, there is no pain. There is freedom.”Rami Malek
“Being on Mr. Robot has made me very conscious of everything I say and do. I always feel like someone’s monitoring us and we’re not fully aware of it. But maybe it’s for the better. People should think before they open their mouths.”Amy Schumer
Amy Schumer’s: “The girl with the lower back tattoo.”
Faith Hill
People Magazine
Queen Latifah
Oprah.com
Nigella Lawson
Storm Reid
Andrew Garfield
Jimmy Fallon
Salma Hayek
Mariska Hargitay
Selena Gomez
Jessica Williams
Will Smith
Miranda Kerr
Destiny Frasqueri aka Princess Nokia
“Music has empowered me through poverty, abuse, and mental-health issues. Music gives me a focused purpose. It saves my life everyday.” Teen Vogue MagazineAnna Lynne McCord
-McCord talks about being sexually assaulted, and what it took for her to come to terms with what happened to her, and breaking the silence.Taylor Swift
“If I had to give my younger self some advice, it would be that you have to laugh at things. You have to laugh at things that scare you, things that intimidate you, and things that hurt you. You have to laugh when you’re humiliated, when you’re rejected. Maybe not immediately, but at a certain point, you have to be able to turn whatever bad experience you’ve had into a funny dinner party joke.” People MagazineAustin Mahone
Michelle Obama
Demi Lovato
Steven Speilberg
“And I was lucky that at 18 I knew what I exactly wanted to do. But I didn’t know who I was. How could I? And how could any of us? Because for the first 25 years of our lives, we are trained to listen to voices that are not our own. Parents and professors fill our heads with wisdom and information, and then employers and mentors take their place and explain how this world really works. And usually these voices of authority make sense, but sometimes, doubt starts to creep into our heads and into our hearts. And even when we think, ‘that’s not quite how I see the world,’ it’s kind of easier to just to nod in agreement and go along, and for a while, I let that going along define my character. Because I was repressing my own point of view, because like in that Nilsson song, ‘Everybody was talkin’ at me, so I couldn’t hear the echoes of my mind.’ And at first, the internal voice I needed to listen to was hardly audible, and it was hardly noticeable — kind of like me in high school. But then I started paying more attention, and my intuition kicked in. And I want to be clear that your intuition is different from your conscience. They work in tandem, but here’s the distinction: Your conscience shouts, ‘here’s what you should do,’ while your intuition whispers, ‘here’s what you could do.’ Listen to that voice that tells you what you could do. Nothing will define your character more than that. Because once I turned to my intuition, and I tuned into it, certain projects began to pull me into them, and others, I turned away from.” Spielberg’s 2016 Commencement speech to Harvard Grads
Chris Evans
On meditation: “It was one of the most eye-opening expriences of my life. I had never really meditated before. I’d tried it, but I’d always been very aware of my thoughts. While I was over there [studying with a guru] you do it every day. And I really unlocked a little door in myself. My mind was really noisy, and I had a lot of questions. My guru would just say, ‘Chris, shhh.’ I had questions every five minutes. A lot of our sadness and fears – and suffering – is born out of this unnecessary constant narrative. The only reason the brain wants those questions is because it’s aware of the past, and it’s fearful of the future. The truth is, you are not your thoughts. If you are able to surrender and let your brain be quiet – just for a minute – a real sens of beauty emerges.” Elle Magazine
Christine Aguilera
CHRISTINA AGUILERA on healing your pain
Harvey Keitel
“I won’t let anyone tell my son not to cry. I don’t want anything to interfere with his expressing what he’s feeling. As a kid I was told to shush, and as a result it’s taken me a lifetime to be able to speak. I had to hide it – you hammer it down until you can’t think anymore, you can’t speak anymore, and your inner world is in retreat. You can’t function, and you stutter, which I did as a boy. You will stutter not only vocally, but inwardly. You will hesitate, you will fumble, you will futz, and you will deny the truth because the truth is too difficult to handle. It’s hard to select which situations to run away from once you become a runner, so you hide from everything.”
Overcoming Adversity
Taraji P. Henson
“Any negative can be turned into a positive. Growing up in the hood around Washington, D.C., I knew my surroundings weren’t going to define me. So I chose to focus on the bigger picture. When I got pregnant in college, I never saw it as a failure, though some did. I said, “Watch me prove them wrong.” And you know what? I carried my baby across that stage at graduation.”Amy Schumer
Amy Schumer’s: “The girl with the lower back tattoo.”
Queen Latifah
Oprah.com
Nigella Lawson
Gina Rodriguez
Andrew Garfield
Jimmy Fallon
Salma Hayek
Zendaya
Mary J Blige
“Any little girl out there who is growing up in the projects or in a tough area, you think that your dreams will never come true. Just keep doing what you do. Be true to yourself. Believe YOU even when you don’t believe. Just keep going. Keep moving. If I can do it, you can do it too..”Nelson Mandela
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love. For love comes more naturally to the human heart than it’s opposite.”Tiffany Haddish
Camila Cabello
“If you think about it, all of us minorities combined, we are the majority. We’re not the minority. And if we start looking at things that way, the things are going to start changing. It’s not about exclusion; it’s about explaining what’s been going on in history for years, and how we’ve been failing each other by not being open with these conversations and demanding representation.” Teen Vogue MagazineDestiny Frasqueri aka Princess Nokia
“Music has empowered me through poverty, abuse, and mental-health issues. Music gives me a focused purpose. It saves my life everyday.” Teen Vogue MagazineAnna Lynne McCord
-McCord talks about being sexually assaulted, and what it took for her to come to terms with what happened to her, and breaking the silence.Susan Boyle
“Everybody was laughing because of my drab appearance, but when they dug deeper, they realized that this woman had a hidden talent- and that talent came through in a surprising way. You shouldn’t ever be held back by what people think of you.” Parade MagazineAmerica Ferrera
“We’re used to seeing Latinos as gangsters, drug dealers, or people trying to cross the boarder. We’re so rarely represented for all of the things we are.” People MagazineBlake Shelton
“Hopefully I’ve learned from all of the things I’ve failed at. I’ve learned to just keep my mouth shut and go about my day. I’ve gotten way better at ignoring haters. You just get to a point where you go man I have got to grow up.” People MagazineAustin Mahone
Hillary Swank
“I’m just a girl from a trailor park who had a dream.” 2005 Academy Awards acceptance speech
“There are things about my childhood that I regret, that my mom regrets, that my dad regrets, and I think that my brother regrets, which is that my parents were so troubled in their relationship that we were kind of neglected at times. The other side of my childhood so overshadows that, though, that it’s not something I tend to bring up. Ultimately, my parents did the best they could. A lot of people hold on to something not being the way they think it should’ve been, and they’re messed up because of it. And what’s sad about that is that life will be over for your parents one day, and you can be left with what you could have made of the relationship, but didn’t. My dad wasn’t in my life very much when I was growing up, but I decided that I didn’t want his life to be over and for me to say, “Oh, if I’d only grown up I could’ve had an adult relationship with him.” I’m so glad I have my dad in my life right now. Interview
“One of the first producers I worked with told me I had a horrible forehead and my lips were too big.” US Weekly
LGBTQ
Andrew Garfield
Nelson Mandela
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love. For love comes more naturally to the human heart than it’s opposite.”Chris Colfer
“There is nothing wrong with you. There’s a lot wrong with the world you live in.”Miley Cyrus
“Imagine finding someone you love more then anything in the world, who you would risk your life for but couldn’t marry. And you couldn’t have that special day the way your friends do. Just put yourself in that persons shoes. It makes me feel sick to my stomach.”Portia De Rossi
“Having to hide something like that just ruined me. It really, really killed me. I really, honestly think that anybody that is openly gay and visible is powerful. It doesn’t matter what you do, you are impacting people.”Daniel Radcliffe
“You don’t have to be gay to be a supporter, you just have to be human.”Halsey
Bella Thorne
“So if I were to say anything, I would just say that the one thing I regret growing up was just not being me. “And I spent so much of my life not being me, and, like, you never get those years back. So just be you. And say I am who I am, because who wants to be anybody else? That shit’s boring.” Seventeen MagazineAnsel Elgort
Anne Hathaway
Ellen Page
Ellen Degeneres
Miley Cyrus
“My whole life, I didn’t understand my own gender and sexuality. I always hated the word ‘bisexual’ … I don’t ever think about someone being a boy or being a girl” PEOPLE
Self Esteem
Henry Winkler
Mary Lambert
Vanessa Hudgens
“If you can shift your perspective on a negative thing, it’s possible to turn it into a positive.”
Issa Rae
“I”m for sure confident when it comes to work and trying to fulfill my dreams. Socially, the confidence has teetered, but that’s growing as I’m coming into who I am.”Jameela Jamil
“Beauty, for me, has become about loving different faces. I feel like we are now in the most obsessive time of all, trying to look like the same doll clone. It’s weird for us all to want to look like one person. So many different men are hot and sexy and interesting. We think a big nose on a man is character, and wrinkles distinguished, and we show them in high definition on magazine covers. And with women we just photoshop them all.”Jojo Siwa
The fact that I can wake up every day and know that I am who I always wanted to be – that makes me incredibly happy. It might sound kind of cheesy, but I think it’s honestly what’s on the inside that makes you beautiful.”Luke Perry
“I never felt the need to be in with the crowd. I don’t mind being on the outside.”Lady Gaga
“Be brave enough to be yourself no matter what anyone else thinks.”Maria Bello
“Be brave enough to be yourself no matter what anyone else thinks.”Selena Gomez
“I used to be so concerned about someone disliking me or what people were saying about me on the Internet. It’s ridiculous to worry about that. You should be focusing on family and the wonderful things you have in your life. My favorite quote is one that Jennifer Stone put on Twitter: ‘Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. And small minds discuss people.'”Maggie Gyllenhaal
“There’s just so much pressure to be a great mother, wife, friend, actress, or whatever job you may be. If some aspect of you wants everyone everyone to universally love and understand you and approve of everything you do- well that’s a sad life. You’ll bend yourself into a pretzel trying to be all those things you’re supposed to be.”Anne Hathaway
“You won’t die from humiliation on the internet. You have to get really strong and dig down deep and get really tough.”Ashley Greene
“I would tell myself that I’m worth it. Even though my parents always told my brother and me they loved us and that we were worth it, it took me awhile to actually believe it. I had a low self-esteem as a kid, because I was a perfectionist. Once you realize that perfection doesn’t exist, it makes things easier and you can accept the faults that you have.”Steve Carrell
“Maybe to coolest people are the ones who don’t care about being cool. Maybe I will start a new trend. Perhaps I’m so out, I’m in. Nope; that’s a lie. I have just given up trying and I am content in my failure. And besides, I can carry around a meatball sub in my pants.”Meryl Streep
“Don’t waste so much time thinking about how much you weigh. There is no more mind-numbing, boring, idiotic, self-destructive diversion from the fun of living.”Demi Lovato
“I feel like beauty comes from within and exudes out. And the love that you have for yourself and the confidence that you have is what attracts other people to you.”Abbie Cornish
“A love for one’s self, trust, communication, compassion, intimacy, giggles, and the occasional tickle fight.”Halle Berry
“I’m struggling, just like most women to get it right, to find happiness, to find love, to balance motherhood and career. I’m struggling with all those things like everybody else.”Lady Gaga
“We gotta take care of each other. If you see somebody that’s hurting, don’t look away. And if you’re hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody.”Mandy Moore
“I let myself know that it’s ok to feel my feelings, and that I’m a human being who is fallible and can make mistakes. I’m ok to have a down day, but tomorrow is a new day…”Candice Huffine
“We give so much of ourselves to others when we should really work on our relationship with ourselves. Self-care, without the hashtag or face mask, is essential. Look in the mirror and say, ‘You got this!’ Meditate. Exercise. Whatever. Be kind to yourself every day.”Halsey
I’m 23. When I came into the music industry, I had somebody do my makeup, but I flipped out. People forget that a musician and a model are very different. A model’s job is to play a character, but as a musician, I’m just myself every day. I can’t have someone who doesn’t know me coming on board and changing my face. I’m singing songs that are personal, from the bottom of my heart. My fans need to recognize the person singing to them, you know? That’s just how it is for me. So I started doing my makeup myself. I don’t feel like I need to be wearing that much. For me personally, I like to find ways to play up my existing beauty rather than trying to change what my face looks like.”Winnie Harlow
“I thought my skin wasn’t beautiful enough to wear shorts or open-toed shoes, but my idea of ‘beautiful enough’ came from not seeing enough representation of someone like myself, that would’ve been so powerful for me. I hope to offer all young women a sense of hope and change, that one type of look is not better than another. It’s ok to be different and seeing that is massive for a child.”Mackenzie Ziegler
“I was so scared to put myself out there, I didn’t want anyone to laugh at me. But Maddie would say, ‘just do what you know and don’t worry about other people.”Daniella Perkins
“I used to be really insecure about my curls. In school, a lot of girls had really straight hair and they would be like, ‘Why does your hair look like that way? It’s so frizzy.’ I felt really different and awkward about it, so I went through a phase of straightening my hair every single day.”Ginger Zee
“We should all treat each other with love and respect, because that glossy image you see is never the person that’s really inside there.”Tan France
“When I have an off day, I remind myself what I like about myself. I learned that from Oprah.”Bobby Berk
“Even the people who you think have the most confidence can be terrified inside. Learn to believe and trust in yourself. Some of the nerdiest guys who were tormented in school are now tech billionaires! “Jason Momoa
“I was only 16 or 17 when I graduated from high school. When you don’t have a lot of diversity going on, there’s not a lot of different opinions and views on the world. I met a fair amount of a–holes.”Jennifer Garner
“A sense of humor is more important than anything you see in the mirror, in fact I would advocate for looking at yourself less, especially given what kids are up against with social media today.”Bryce Dallas Howard
“My parents made me feel like anything was possible, but that it was also okay if things weren’t going well. Eventually, though it might take days, months or years, things will settle.”Drake
“You know it’s real when you are who you think you are.”Amy Poehler
“When the demon starts to slither my way and say bad stuff about me I turn around and say, ‘Hey. Cool it, Amy is my friend. Don’t talk about her like that.’ Sticking up for ourselves in the same way we would one of our friends is a hard but satisfying thing to do. Sometimes it works.”Emma Stone
“My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to each ourselves, so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people.”Demi Lovato
“Don’t work out because you think you ‘need’ to. Do it because your body deserves love, respect and healthy attention.”Tyra Banks
“Never dull your shine for somebody else.”Sarah Hyland
“Don’t be afraid to have your own opinion. Don’t take no for an answer. Fight. Because people try to bring you down, and people try to get in the way of your dreams. But if you set your mind to something, you can accomplish that – and then some.”Drake
“I always try to remind people of their beauty and their good qualities. People do love you and people do care, and no bully is worth taking over you life.”Alex Molina
“I grew up in a very abusive home. My mother could never show affection towards us. When I was young and I first was homeless my escape was always school. For me, from an early age, I knew that what was going to take me out of my homelessness was my education. I got a degree in sociology and with that I wanted to help people. I feel that’s my calling… that’s my purpose in life. I got hired at Covenant House and became a case manager. That’s a full-circle moment right there for me. I often have youth look at me and say, ‘you don’t know what it’s like to live her.’ I look at them in the eye and tell them I slept in these hallways. I slept in those bunk beds and I made it to college and I made something of myself and now I’m here giving back to you guys. So… I do know.”Lady Gaga
“You just remember if you feel different or if you feel you not understood don’t you dare give up on who you are. You fight like hell for what you believe in.”Janet Jackson
“I struggled with depression. It’s a tenacious and scary condition.”Gisele Buendchen
“There were a lot of things that you go through in your life that you prefer not to remember because they’re too painful. But knowing what I know now, I realized that when there is acceptance, there is no pain. There is freedom.”Suzanne Somers
“I believed wrongly that if I could just be perfect he, my father, would love me enough to not have a drink. At night when alcohol made my Dad especially violent, we would all get hurt physically or emotionally. The booze made him act viciously and say terrible things; “You’re stupid, hopeless, worthless, you’re nothing, you’re a big zero.” Sadly, his rants became my reality. I believed I was what he said.”Ariana Grande
“When you go through those teenage years, there’s lots of crying and drama and craziness and doubting yourself, and I haven’t felt any of that in a long time, I’ve just felt calm and happy. Like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing.”Justin Theroux
“Doubt is good. We all doubt when we set out to do anything new. That’s a motivating factor.”Penelope Cruise
“I feel most beautiful when I’m serene, relaxed, and present and I’m able to have gratitude for all that I have. That’s when beauty can be there. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter what my hair looks like or what makeup I put on.”Cate Blanchett
“Work with what you’ve got. It’s not about trying to look like someone else. It’s about wanting to be the best you can be.”Ciara
“Keep pushing yourself to soar higher and higher! NO dream is too big! All it takes is one person to believe, and that person is YOU!”Demi Moore
“Early in my career I was spiraling down a path of real self-destruction, and no matter what successes I had, I just never felt good enough.”Jonah Hill
“The journey is self-acceptance and self-love. I believe everybody has this snapshot of themselves. It’s a snapshot that they kinda want to hide from the world. And mine was being like this 14-year old over weight kid kinda feeling ugly to the world wanting to fit in with this group of skateboarders. People are all just different but they hurt just as much. It was a liberating way to spend these last few years figuring out who I am as a person, how do you love yourself, and how do you be yourself and be the artist that you are with out apologizing for it”Sabrina Carpenter
“I try to never feel as if I’m going through anything that’s so different from everybody else. I know we’re all going through the same thing. We all have those times when we’re insecure. But then we have moments when we feel pretty bomb. And those are the moments that I like to get to.”Mindy Kaling
“In my career, a lot of people have a problem with being around women who don’t hate themselves. Never hate yourself.”
Anne Hathaway
“When I was 14, my face looked like a potato and a chipmunk had a baby and it was me.”Angelina Jolie
“Know yourself, and look at the people who love you, like your family. You know you are not what the bully says. Don’t change”Nicki Minaj
“As soon as I realized I could actually live and breathe with out having a boyfriend, something clicked in me.”Paula Patton
“The most important thing is to find happiness. It’s not about what people think about you or how much money you have. Once you take those things away, there’s real happiness to be found”Melissa McCarthy
“If somebody is mean, they’re probably really not happy. If you’re having a great day, you don’t walk past someone and yell, ‘Freak!’ If you’re happy you say, ‘I love your skirt!'”Emmy Rossum
“Growing up, I had short, curly hair, and I envied everyone who had long, soft, silky, straight hair. But over the years I’ve been encouraged to embrace the reality of what makes me unique.”Gal Gadot
“My mom raised my sister and me to be confident women with aspirations. I’m not saying that I’m stronger than most men. But we all have the same brains; we can achieve the same things”Priyanka Chopra
“When you’re a teen, everything feels so monumental and life-changing, but in reality none of it matters”Kelly Clarkson
“Pretty fades, character lasts. Being a good human matters. The most beautiful thing is to see our kids be kind to each other.”Pink
“I wish someone would have told me when I was 13 that my green hair and braces, and my freckles all over my face, and my attitude, it was all going to work for me one day. And my God, has it ever.”Mandy Moore
“It’s a combination of getting older and wiser and going through the hard knocks of a divorce. You realize, I’m not going to take anyone’s shit. It’s emboldened me. There’s power in saying no and in asking for what you deserve. There is power in knowing your value.”Hugh Jackman
“I want to tell my kids that it doesn’t matter what sexual orientation you are, it doesn’t matter what job you do, it doesn’t matter if your hair is straight or curly, if you’re tall or short, man or woman, what race you are. What defines you as a human being is underneath all that”Mandy Moore
“Although I’ve become a lot more comfortable with myself, everyone has their self-doubts and insecurities.”Jonathan Van Ness
Jonathan Van Ness People Magazine
Amy Schumer
Amy Schumer’s: “The girl with the lower back tattoo.”
Nigella Lawson
Gina Rodriguez
Storm Reid
Tom Brady
Salma Hayek
Selena Gomez
Melissa McCarthy
Gina Rodriguez
Zendaya
Janis Joplin
Mary J Blige
“Any little girl out there who is growing up in the projects or in a tough area, you think that your dreams will never come true. Just keep doing what you do. Be true to yourself. Believe YOU even when you don’t believe. Just keep going. Keep moving. If I can do it, you can do it too..”Gal Gadot
“Whatever makes you feel more comfortable with yourself empowers you. Beauty comes from the inside.”Coco Chanel
Miranda Kerr
Mandy Hale
Halsey
Hunter Hayes
Emma Stone
Tiffany Haddish
Olesya
“Beauty wasn’t about getting boys to like me; it was about not conforming– in my glitter liner, I felt untouchable.” Teen Vogue MagazineParis Jackson
“We are all warriors in our own way, but it’s up to you whether you decide to fight or sit idly, whether you’re a part of the right cause or not. And don’t just follow everything that comes p on your phone or computer screen. Look up to something honest, strong, brave, loving and worthwhile.” Teen Vogue MagazineKaty Perry
“I think when I’m myself is when I’m probably the most attractive to someone else.” Cosmo MagazineMichael Sam
“Great things can happen when you have the courage to be yourself.” People MagazineAnna Lynne McCord
-McCord talks about being sexually assaulted, and what it took for her to come to terms with what happened to her, and breaking the silence.Taylor Swift
“If I had to give my younger self some advice, it would be that you have to laugh at things. You have to laugh at things that scare you, things that intimidate you, and things that hurt you. You have to laugh when you’re humiliated, when you’re rejected. Maybe not immediately, but at a certain point, you have to be able to turn whatever bad experience you’ve had into a funny dinner party joke.” People MagazineDanielle Brooks
“Regardless of how much melanin we have, or how many pimples, or how curly or straight our hair is, it’s really about what we have inside of us that makes us who we are. Sometimes I’ll look at myself and be like dang girl you got a lot of stretch marks. But then I’m like, that’s just the road map of my strength.” People MagazineMisty Copeland
Misty Copeland on being criticized by others: “Once you accept yourself for who you really are, there’s only so much you can do. It has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with the person doing the criticizing.” People MagazineNev Schulman
“Men aren’t attracted to women who sell themselves short and put up with being mistreated. In fact, it’s the opposite. When you hold your own and know yourself, that’s when men take you seriously .” Cosmo MagazineKofi Siriboe
“I was chubby with a chubby-kid complex, I really came into my own.” People MagazineAdrian Grenier
“A lot of times, insecurities beget rejection. It’s not about how good-looking you are. It’s attractive when you love yourself.” Cosmo MagazineBella Thorne
“So if I were to say anything, I would just say that the one thing I regret growing up was just not being me. “And I spent so much of my life not being me, and, like, you never get those years back. So just be you. And say I am who I am, because who wants to be anybody else? That shit’s boring.” Seventeen MagazineBella Thorne
“For me, who cares about popularity? If people only like you because you’re popular, why do you want to be friends with them anyway?.” Cosmo MagazineAnsel Elgort
Amy Poehler
Michelle Obama
Jennifer Lopez
Kerry Washington
Missy Elliott
Adele
Taraji Henson
Alicia Keys
Ellen Degeneres
“It feels good to be chosen but there was a time in my life that I was not chosen. I was the opposite of chosen because I was different. I want to make sure that everyone knows: WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT RIGHT NOW MAKES YOU STAND OUT LATER IN LIFE. So you should be proud of who you are! Embrace who are because being unique is very, very important and fitting in is not really all that matters.” Teen Choice Awards
Bethany Mota
“I want to tell everyone here that you are capable of so much. I used to limit myself all of the time and I would think of things that I wanted to do and I’d be like, ‘there’s no way that I can do that,’ and I’d dismiss the thought from my mind. But, making YouTube Videos is one of the things that I just went for and I’m like, ‘there’s no way anyone’s gonna wanna watch my videos, I’m way too weird.’ But I did it anyway and now I have this amazing community. I want to remind you that you are all strong and powerful so don’t allow anyone to limit you and most of all, never limit yourself because you’re incredible.” Teen Choice Awards
Shailene Woodley
“One day I was having one of my teenage crisis, when you think everything’s falling apart-your estrogen and progesterone are freaking out. And my grandmother said, ‘Shai, the most important thing in life is self-love. You’ve gotta take care of yourself and you’ve gotta live from your deep heart.’ I’ve come to determine that deep heart is my compassion, empathy and intuition. Because your intuition never wants to be mean to somebody. You intuitively know that another human being on this planet is hurting just as badly as you may be. The way that they express themselves could be rude or seen as douche or whatnot. But maybe they’re scared or had no one there to support them.” ELLE Magazine
Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz
“If your beliefs are telling you, ‘m fat. I’m ugly. I’m old. I’m a loser. I’m not good enough. I’m not strong enough. I’ll never make it,’ then don’t believe yourself, because it’s not true. These messages are distorted. They’re nothing but lies. Once you can see the lies, you don’t have to believe them. Use the power of doubt to challenge every message that you deliver to yourself. ‘Is it really true that I’m ugly? Is it really true that I’m not good enough?’ Is this message real, or is it virtual? Of course it’s virtual. None of these messages come from the truth, from life; they come from distortions in our knowledge. The truth is, there are no ugly people. There is no good enough or strong enough. There’s no universal book of law where any of these judgments are true. These judgments are just agreements that humans make.
Muiccia Prada
“UGLY IS attractive. Ugly is exciting to me. The investigation of ugliness is, to me, more interesting that the bourgeois idea of beauty. And why? Because ugly is human.” New York Times
Ellen DeGeneres
When asked if she read about herself on the internet Ellen said, “Never. Never have. I don’t see any good or bad whatever people say about me. There’s a phrase, ‘What you think of me is none of my business.’ And I really feel like that. If I’m going to buy into ‘People Love me!’ then I have to buy into ‘”People hate me!’ So I just have to like myself and not care what people think. Usually if they don’t lie you, it has nothing to do with you.”
“I cry easily. I think it’s important to have lots of different emotions. You have to feel every bit of it, or else you are missing out.” PEOPLE
Anna Kendrick
“I gave up on being nice. I stared putting more value on other qualities instead: passion, bravery, intelligence, practicality, humor, patience, fairness, sensitivity. Those last three might seem like they are covered by “nice,” but make no mistake, they are not. A person who smiles a lot and remembers everyone’s birthday can turn out to be undercover crazy, a compulsive thief, and boring to boot. I don’t put a lot of stock in nice. I’d prefer to be around people who have any of the above qualities over “niceness,” and I’d prefer it if that applied to me, too. I’m also okay if the most accurate description of me is salty. But a least I know what I want to strive for.:” PEOPLE
Gia Coppola
“When I was a teenager I was so ready to grow up. Anything that was mainstream didn’t interest me, and now I want to see all of the Twilight movies and feel like I’m a kid again. Even as an adult, I’m insecure about so many things, and you have to do what feels good to you in the moment.” “Teen Vogue
Dane Cook
DANE COOK on the little friend in his pocket
“I couldn’t get a date to the prom. Now I change my name when I check into hotels.
I used to go by Zang Kudrow who was an action figure I kept in my pocket when I felt shy at school. I knew he was in there, like my buddy.” In Style
Angelina Jolie
Angelina on how to feel beautiful and strong
“I’ve often felt unattractive or different looking. As I’ve grown up, I’ve felt more comfortable in my own skin. It may sound cliche, but when you feel beautiful and strong on the inside, it shows on the outside.” Teen People
Sandra Bullock
“I hated my whole childhood, hated it, hated it, hated it. There was no place for me. I was not accepted here. I was noticeably different. I was awkward. I was in the wrong clothes. I would get the sh_t kicked out of me constantly. My mother would be like, ‘That’s ridiculous. Why would anyone do that?’ I’m coming home with my hair a mess, crying. Finally a guidance counselor came to my house and said, ‘We have a problem. They are picking on her, and I don’t know what to do about it.’ And I was so angry at my mother. She was like, ‘Obviously something you are doing.’ … I’m so thankful for it now because it definitely gives you the empathetic view of humanity.” Vogue
“Realizing that conforming didn’t accomplish anything. I was so preppy-everything was monogrammed and everything had to match. It was such a stress. Being popular was so much work! Do your own thing. As long as you learn that, you’re cool.” Teen People
Melissa Etheridge
MELISA ETHERIDGE reveals what she’s glad she learned to let go
“Fear. And the sense that I am not good enough-not good enough for my partner, my career, my kids. Before, I needed to make everybody else feel good, so nobody would look at me. I’d take on everybody’s problems and make their life happy, so they didn’t see I wasn’t good enough. Now I can go to a photo shoot with 70 zillion people, and I don’t have to make them think I’m the greatest. I can just be myself and trust that I’m okay.” Life
Phylicia Rashad
Phylicia says STOP looking for approval
“Don’t be preoccupied with looking for approval from other people. You’re never going to be anybody but who you are. And who you are is greater than you imagine. The way that you think creates our reality. It’s very powerful. I would say to a young girl who is feeling insecure about her looks to stop. Who you are is not the way you look; who you are is who you are on the inside. And there is not a mirror in the world that can show you that. It is beautiful, it is amazing, it is awesome.’ Oprah Show
Madonna
MADONNA has fears too:
“Oh sure, I’ve got lots of fears. My job is to conquer my fears. The irony of being a performer is that I have huge insecurities. People are shocked to hear that I think my legs are fat or I don’t like the way I look. We all have insecurities. We’d be lying if we said we didn’t. I’m so not the Material Girl now. There were many years when I thought fame, fortune, and public approval would bring me happiness. But one day you wake up and realize they don’t. Each of us is responsible for everything that happens in our lives. When good things happen — we win an award, meet the love of our lives, or get a promotion – we take ownership of that. But when bad things happen-we get fired or we divorce-we often don’t take responsibility. We call it something that just happened. I now understand that just as we can draw the positive, we can draw the negative.”
When asked what she knew for sure, Madonna said, “That there are no mistakes or accidents. That consciousness is everything and that all things begin with a thought. That we are responsible for our own fate, we reap what we sow, we get what we give, we pull in what we put out.” O Magazine
SALEISHA
SALEISHA wants you to be who you are
“My freshman year I went through a phase when I would think some girl was much prettier than me. Like, she’s skinnier, she’s taller, she has prettier eyes. I didn’t hate myself, but I didn’t feel that I was pretty. But at the end of the day, you can’t change who you are. You can’t go to sleep at night and wake up tomorrow perfectly beautiful. You just have to give what you got, and if [the world] doesn’t want it, then they can leave it. Seventeen
Eminem
Eminem on judging people:
“…you gotta learn to judge people for the individuals that they are.” Cosmo Girl
Julianne Moore
Julianna on imperfections:
“I think imperfections are important, just as mistakes are important. You only get to be good by making mistakes, and you only get to be real by being imperfect.” Glamour
Cher
“I’m the girl who everyone said was never going anywhere. I guess I shocked a few people, but deep down I don’t feel like I’m there yet either.
I’m still just going day to day. I’m just doing my thing.” Chicago Sun-Times
Sally Field
Sally talks about her low-self-esteem:
“Many people must have looked at my life and thought I was quite fortunate. But I felt lousy about myself–and as you now know, I didn’t come from a place where I had a lot of self-confidence. In my late 50s I began to embrace myself in a way that I hadn’t been able to before. I find that I’m not as worried anymore about what other people think. That’s a comfortable place to be. And I’m starting to let go of the feeling that I need to push myself to do things. I don’t want to do–an impulse that has always been linked to the feeling that I’m not enough. If you’re busy thinking, Gosh, I’m not pretty or smart enough, your spirit is undernourished. The minute you tell yourself, I’m never going to feel those things again, you stop growing because you’re too busy armoring yourself.” O Magazine
Cindy Crawford
“…I am my true self in my marriage. I don’t have to act or pretend I like football. I’m secure enough that if Rande wants to go out and I don’t, I say ‘Go and have a good time.’ Before, I might have either wanted him to stay or else I would go just to keep an eye on him.” Lifetime Magazine
Christina Applegate
“I’ve seen things written that are really hurtful to me and very painful. I like to look on our ABC blog for feedback on the show. It is supposed to be [a place for people] to talk about the episodes, not about whether I look old. I had one person say I needed to start wearing a bra, and now all I’m doing is thinking about my boobs and if they’re saggy. But I just think, Oh, c’mon, Christina! You have to let go and know who you really are. I don’t mind my flaws. When you’re younger, it feels like the end of the world if you make a mistake or if you have a zit. Now it’s like, Who cares? Just try to be happy. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to other people. Do good work. Be professional. All those things are really important.
I’m a big yes-I-will-do-whatever-you-want, people pleasing person, which I think is left over from my youth. I grew up really quickly. I had to be incredibly responsible and show up to work on time and be focused and clear. But now I know what’s going to push me too hard, and I don’t want to be taken advantage of. In this business, you’re treated like you’re a superwoman who can do everything, and you can’t. You’ve got to be able to take time for yourself. So I definitely try to say ‘No’ more. Recently, one of my friends said, ‘You need to get out of your house.’ But why? I’ve got everything I need here. I have my animals. I have a refrigerator. I have my pool. My favorite thing to do is play with my dogs and cats. I think it’s important to have time to reflect and be quiet and just think. I enjoy my alone time. Self
“The truth is, I was the ugly, dorky duckling growing up. Even when I would do the show [Married With Children], I would walk away wearing baggy clothes. I was just so under-confident in what I looked like. I never looked in the mirror and never thought that I was a pretty girl. Boys never hit on me. I really wanted to be that hoochie mama in the club, the one that guys all wanted to look at and grab, but I just could not be that person.”
Alfre Woodard
“When I was growing up in Tulsa, the kids called me bubble lips and frog eyes. My mama always said, “Oh, you’re such a pretty girl,” and I believed I was, thanks to her encouragement. Still, this was before the “black is beautiful” era of the 1970s, and everything around me seemed to negate my particular look – especially movies. The screen is one of the most influential tools in our lives, and if you don’t see yourself represented it’s almost as if you don’t exist. As I got older, I was drawn to the power and possibility for healing that cinema and the theater offered the world, and even though I didn’t resemble the typical actress – or maybe because of it – I moved to Hollywood. At auditions I was constantly told that I looked too much like an African and not enough like an African-American. I thought, this is as African-American as you get – my family has been here for 400 years! The hues of America were not being celebrated. Instead, everybody was trying to fit a homogeneous image. Then in 1986, I traveled to Zimbabwe for the first time to shoot the TV movie Mandela. I felt as if I’d been given a pure shot of oxygen. Suddenly, I was part of the dominant culture. I saw people like me. They had round faces and large eyes, with skin so warm and lips so full that I almost wanted to kiss strangers. I’d been living in Los Angeles, a world full of cubic zirconias, and here I was in the land of deep, rich-colored, genuine gemstones. I felt organically beautiful for the first time in my life. It may sound immodest, but I realized that my presence in movies gives that same validation to other young black women. They can feel free to walk their walk, swing their hips, and flash their smiles because they see themselves up on the screen. Everybody has a part of her body that she doesn’t like, but I’ve stopped complaining about mine because I don’t want to critique nature’s handiwork. There’s no such thing as imperfection. My job is simply to allow the light to shine out of the masterpiece.” O Magazine
Sexiness
Nick Jonas
Jason Derulo
“I fall in love with personality, and I love a woman who’s not overbearing. I like intelligence –someone who is ambitious and has goals for me as well.” People MagazineKerry Washington
Rachel Bilson
Rachel on sexiness
“The guy has to be funny. He can be Screech, but if he makes you laugh, you’re like – You’re kind of cute. Cosmopolitan
“It doesn’t matter how good-looking a guy is, it just depends on his personality. If a guy can make you laugh and make fun of you, that’s what wins me over.” TWIST
Javier Bardem
Javier reveals what he finds attractive:
For me, the most attractive woman is the person who is at peace with herself. No matter how good that person looks, when I see somebody at peace, that is sexy to me. Parade
Virginia Madsen
Virginia on sexiness
“Real sexiness comes from within. If you punish yourself for all of your flaws, you will never feel or seem sexy at all.
Love yourself and celebrate your body.” O Magazine
John Cusack
JOHN CUSACK explains what he thinks is sexy:
“Almost everything about women is sexy. But it’s just the person, the way they are, the way they move across a room. Sometimes it’s confidence, a kind of attitude. The most sexy people I know are the ones who have the guts to just be themselves. It’s hard to find people like that in Hollywood. If somebody is putting on an act, it’s a sideshow that doesn’t last.” Cosmopolitan