Bullying Survivor


Alexis Smith would like to help you if she can. Alexis has overcome overwhelming obstacles in her life and developed into an heroic example of how to focus on your strengths and never give away your power to bullies, whether they are at school, online or in your home. Hey U.G.L.Y.’s co-founder, Betty Hoeffner first met Alexis in 2013; the two have been sharing Alexis’ wisdom through powerful videos she made specifically for Hey U.G.L.Y.’s Bullying Prevention TV YouTube Channel. Alexis serves as Communications Coordinator for Hey U.G.L.Y.

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The first six weeks of Alexis’ life were spent in an incubator. Her biological mother’s addiction to heroin and cocaine caused Alexis’ premature birth and diagnosis of Spastic Quadriplegia Cerebral Palsy due to a lack of oxygen to her brain. (Spastic means that she has involuntary body movements, especially with her legs) Her disability affects all four limbs, making them extremely tight and stiff, requiring her to walk with leg braces and forearm crutches. She also uses a power wheelchair which she steers like a professional racecar driver.

When she was seven-years old, her grandmother, who had guardianship of Alexis since she was born, enrolled her in a program called Caring For Kids that helps people with disabilities participate in sports so they can stay active and have opportunities to be social. Alexis really looked forward these outings because, for the first time, she could play almost any sport like other children, just in a different way. So, when she is feeling sad, or down, she tells herself, “Why waste my time in a pity party when I could be having fun rock climbing, golfing, boating, etc.? Life is too short.”

When she was at school, Alexis missed math and reading classes because medical professionals considered her a child with a developmental delay. She did not like school because every subject was hard for her and she thought all her peers were smarter.

“I was enrolled in a school called Wilma Rudolph Learning Center for students with disabilities where I was not up-to-date on the materials for my age level,” Smith said. “As time went on, I realized that most of the coursework was not challenging to me. I went there because occupational and physical therapists, as well as other medical professionals, told my grandmother this would be the best school for me. My grandmother helped me with homework the entire time I was a student. She would read books to me just to make sure my assignments were completed on time.

“I started being bullied in elementary school because my classmates would see me leave the room to go to my special education class,” recalled Smith. “Some of them called me stupid. I was also bullied because some of the teachers would announce that I could take assignments home to finish them since I had academic accommodations. That was embarrassing. The most common reason I was bullied was because of the way I walked. When I was five-years old I underwent a tendon lengthening surgery to help me walk flat-footed. The back of my legs were cut behind my knees, the back of my ankles, and in between the groin. Instead of helping me walk better it made it so much more worse. Now I could only walk on the side of my feet to the point where I would almost break my ankles. That is why I must wear two braces: one on my left ankle and a brace that goes up to the back of my right leg.”


“There was one life-changing moment in school when I was in fifth grade because that’s when I discovered I had a passion for writing,” explained Smith. “My teacher told us to write a creative story. Mine was about students being stuck in the school during a snowstorm. I was awarded a little pin from the Young Authors Contest for that story. That’s when I realized I love writing. It helps me heal from trauma.”

“From that point on, I started writing other short stories and poetry,” said Smith. “After winning the pin, I thought to myself that maybe I was finally good at something academically. My passion for writing positively influenced my choice to attend George Westinghouse College Prep High School for their broadcast journalism program because, at the time, I thought I wanted to be a journalist. Right before my junior year of high school, I signed up with Global Girl Media (GGM) Chicago, a journalism organization for young women to report on issues important to them. I was thrilled to be a part of GGM because I knew I could use my journalism and reporting skills to bring awareness to the injustices in the disabled community.”