Author: Betty Hoeffner

Justin Timberlake

JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE on feeling like an outcast on The Ellen Show

“I grew up in Tennessee, and if you didn’t play football, you were a sissy. I got slurs all the time because I was in music and art . . . I was an outcast in a lot of ways . . . but everything that you get picked on for or you feel makes you weird is essentially what’s going to make you sexy as an adult.”

John Barrowman

 

JOHN BARROWMAN

“I knew at a very young age that I was gay. I was walking back to my locker and this kid caught up to me and he called me “fag”, punched me in the face, shoved me in the locker and shut the door. What do you do? You’re mortified, you’re embarrassed, you just think, what do I tell my mom and dad?”

Barrowman eventually stood up to his bully.

“You can hit me, you can punch me, and you can bully me and do everything you want. Punch me in the face as many times you want, but I will always get back up.”

Barrowman  cautions that you shouldn’t try to do it alone.

“You have to find people around you to support you, right? Your friends. Your family. We all love super heroes. Why not be one? So make a stand for who you are and make a stand for someone else.”  CBS8.com

Steven Speilberg

STEVEN SPEILBERG

“And I was lucky that at 18 I knew what I exactly wanted to do. But I didn’t know who I was. How could I? And how could any of us? Because for the first 25 years of our lives, we are trained to listen to voices that are not our own. Parents and professors fill our heads with wisdom and information, and then employers and mentors take their place and explain how this world really works. And usually these voices of authority make sense, but sometimes, doubt starts to creep into our heads and into our hearts. And even when we think, ‘that’s not quite how I see the world,’ it’s kind of easier to just to nod in agreement and go along, and for a while, I let that going along define my character. Because I was repressing my own point of view, because like in that Nilsson song, ‘Everybody was talkin’ at me, so I couldn’t hear the echoes of my mind.’ And at first, the internal voice I needed to listen to was hardly audible, and it was hardly noticeable — kind of like me in high school. But then I started paying more attention, and my intuition kicked in. And I want to be clear that your intuition is different from your conscience. They work in tandem, but here’s the distinction: Your conscience shouts, ‘here’s what you should do,’ while your intuition whispers, ‘here’s what you could do.’ Listen to that voice that tells you what you could do. Nothing will define your character more than that. Because once I turned to my intuition, and I tuned into it, certain projects began to pull me into them, and others, I turned away from.”  Spielberg’s 2016 Commencement speech to Harvard Grads

Devyn Rush

DEVYN RUSH

“When I was being bullied at school, I would take all the mean things everyone said to me, and I would say them to myself 3000 times. What happens when you say something to yourself over and over again?… You start to believe it. I remember the first time I tried to say “I Love You” to myself. I looked in the mirror and said it. It was so painfully difficult. I didn’t believe it. But then I said it again. And again. And again. And now, after saying things like “I Love You” and “I Am Enough” 3000 times, I really believe it. One of my new affirmations is, “I have no room for negativity. I am filled to the brim with love!” I’m helping myself believe new positive affirmations all the time. It’s just like working a muscle.”  From Devyn’s I AM ENOUGH bullying and suicide prevention school assembly & mini-concert for Hey U.G.L.Y. – Unique Gifted Lovable You

Don Miquel Ruiz and Don Ruiz, in “The Fifth Agreement”

DON MIQUEL RUIZ AND DON JOSE RUIZ

“If your beliefs are telling you, “I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m old. I’m a loser. I’m not good enough. I’m not strong enough. I’ll never make it,” then don’t believe yourself, because it’s not true. These messages are distorted. They’re nothing but lies. Once you can see the lies, you don’t have to believe them. Use the power of doubt to challenge every message that you deliver to yourself. “Is it really true that I’m ugly? Is it really true that I’m not good enough?” Is this message real, or is it virtual? Of course it’s virtual. None of these messages come from the truth, from life; they come from distortions in our knowledge. The truth is, there are no ugly people. There is no good enough or strong enough. There’s no universal book of law where any of these judgments are true. These judgments are just agreements that humans make.

Can you see the consequences of believing yourself? Believing yourself is one of the worst things you can do because you’ve been telling yourself lies your whole life, and if you believe all those lies, that’s why your dream isn’t a pleasant dream.”   From the book,  “The Fifth Agreement”