Month: April 2017

Ellen DeGeneres

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ELLEN DeGENERES

When asked if she read about herself on the internet Ellen said, “Never. Never have. I don’t see any good or bad whatever people say about me. There’s a phrase, ‘What you think of me is none of my business.’ And I really feel like that. If I’m going to buy into ‘People Love me!’ then I have to buy into ‘”People hate me!’ So I just have to like myself and not care what people think. Usually if they don’t lie you, it has nothing to do with you.”

“I cry easily. I think it’s important to have lots of different emotions. You have to feel every bit of it, or else you are missing out.”  PEOPLE MAGAZINE

Jordyn Woods

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JORDYN WOODS

 “Depending on the day, my skin can be completely clear…or a blemish-ridden mess. My hair is either sleek and shiny…or dull and frizzy. And sometimes, no matter how I might appear in a picture, I just feel crummy about the way I look. I can easily tell when a photographer has Photoshopped my face or body-you’d e surprised at how often it happens. It’s so sad when girls look at a highly edited picture of me and say, “Why don’t I look like her?” Hello, I’ve een airbrushed! So instead of comparing, I’m trying to focus on being the best version of myself. That might mean I wear makeup sometimes (it’s fun!) and use my favorite tricks for taking good selfies(natural lighting is key). But it also means that on the days I feel like waking up and rolling out with my face completely bare and my hair in a messy bun, I’m going to do that too-because I’ve realized there’s no better feeling than when you actually woke up like this”  Girls Life

Anna Kendrick

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ANNA KENDRICK
“I gave up on being nice. I stared putting more value on other qualities instead: passion, bravery, intelligence, practicality, humor, patience, fairness, sensitivity. Those last three might seem like they are covered by “nice,” but make no mistake, they are not. A person who smiles a lot and remembers everyone’s birthday can turn out to be undercover crazy, a compulsive thief, and boring to boot. I don’t put a lot of stock in nice. I’d prefer to be around people who have any of the above qualities over “niceness,” and I’d prefer it if that applied to me, too. I’m also okay if the most accurate description of me is salty. But a least I know what I want to strive for.”  PEOPLE Magazine

Gia Coppola

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GIA COPPOLA

“When I was a teenager I was so ready to grow up. Anything that was mainstream didn’t interest me, and now I want to see all of the Twilight movies and feel like I’m a kid again. Even as an adult, I’m insecure about so many things, and you have to do what feels good to you in the moment.”  Teen Vogue

Ryan Destiny

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RYAN DESTINY

“As a dark-skinned girl, I have many things that I’ve gone through that I wish more people would have addressed so I wouldn’t have felt so alone. I just want other girls to look up to me in that way. My goal is to break the boundaries and everything a person things a black woman should be. I just want to keep changing the game.”  Teen Vogue

Finding Encouragement – Your True Inner Voice

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Finding Encouragement – Your True Inner Voice

By A.J. Mahari (aka Soul)

Within each of us, there are numerous voices often that compete for our attention. It can be difficult to decide which one to listen to, particularly when their messages are all quite different, sometimes conflicting, and even alluring. One voice, however, is the speaker of truth. Among all your inner voices, your true inner voice is the one which encourages you, gives you hope, and pushes you to trust and believe in yourself. Conflict within oneself is often caused by dueling voices inside of each one of us. As we move through life, we get mixed messages from the various aspects of ourselves. Some of our voices, such as the naysayer or saboteur, can speak so loudly that they drown out the voice of truth. Listening to your true inner voice – often the voice of understanding, support, and self-assurance – can help lessen and even resolve internal conflict.

If you’re looking toward the future but your faith in your ability to succeed in life is wavering, you will benefit from finding and listening to your true inner voice. You can connect with it by remaining relaxed and alert, while listening carefully. If you have trouble distinguishing your true voice from the others, meditation may be helpful. You may hear many voices as you meditate, but the one you should pay attention to is the one that speaks to you with love, understanding, and compassion. It will bolster your spirits and urge you to go after your dreams. And it will never cause confusion, remind you of past mistakes, or cause you to doubt yourself.

The more you listen to and believe in what your true inner voice is telling you about your value and your potential, the stronger that voice will become. And the more you disregard the voices that can interfere with your resolve to succeed, the quieter those voices will become. Saying no to the voices that are judgmental and make you feel ashamed will help you stop being critical of your failures and afraid of success. By finding and strengthening your true inner voice, you will be able to ignore internal conflict and pick out the one that speaks the truth.

Know You Are Special

Posted on by Al Baker

Know You Are Special

By Collin McCarty

Never Forget
Your presence, is a present to the world.
You’re unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be, what you want it to be.
Take the days, just one at a time.
Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You’ll make it through, whatever comes along.
Within you, are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.
Don’t put limits on yourself.
So many dreams, are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important, to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and your prize.
Nothing wastes more energy, than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.
Don’t take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
Remember, that a little love goes a long way.
Remember, that a lot . . . goes forever.
Remember, that friendship is a wise investment.
Life’s treasures, are people . . . together.
Realize, that it’s never too late.
Do ordinary things, in an extraordinary way.
Have health, hope and happiness.
Take the time, to wish upon a star.
And don’t ever forget . . .
For even a day . . .
How very special you are.

I’m Not Perfect

Posted on by Al Baker

I’m Not Perfect

the song was written – and the video was produced by songwriter/actress, Lori Martini.

Lori chose Hey U.G.L.Y. as the charity
for this song and is recommending viewers donate to help us empower youth to put an end to bullying and feeling good enough.

At the end of the video you’ll see a cool message about Hey U.G.L.Y. from our national
spokesperson, singer/songwriter
Devyn Rush from American Idol.

Please pass this on to all of your friends –
let’s take this viral!!
FYI – This song has been featured on the
Reality TV Show, Dance Moms Miami.

How Are You Feeling?

Posted on by Al Baker

How Are You Feeling?

Ever have someone tell you to get in touch with your feelings? Well sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on inside of you. So, we found this cool list of feelings to help us all get to the bottom of what’s going inside of us.
Once a day print out the list of feelings and hi-lite all the feelings you felt that day. Do this each day for one week. Make sure you go to our Self-Esteem Tips pages too. They will help you get in touch with your inner voice. Some of the tips deal with how to believe in yourself. Other tips explore things like: why anger is necessary; how to avoid complainers; and, how to stop all the competition.

After one week if you see your feelings getting happier stay on that path. If you notice that your feelings are staying stuck or are sad and depressed, tell a friend, a parent, a counselor … someone you can trust. Most of our friends and the trusted adults we know have been through times of sadness or despair. Hearing their advice on how they overcame what we’re going through can help a lot. If you are like a lot of us, you may even feel like you are totally alone in your pain and confusion. But, in fact, millions of people go through tough times. Getting through tough times really do make us stronger. Getting through the tough times also enable us to be able to help others who are going through it. We can actually help our friends because we know what it feels like to be in the sh*! and how great it feels to have made it through.

It helps so much to reach out.

ADVICE: Don’t let other people control how you feel. You have the power within you to find joy and happiness. It helps if you hang with friends who are happy. Stay away from those that thrive on drama, anger and acting out.

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: Do you want to be happy or is there something inside of you that likes being sad?

IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY DO THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY. What brings you joy? Email your advice for finding joy to: PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org. We’ll share your wisdom on with youth all over the world.

Abandoned
Accomplished
Adequate
Adamant
Affectionate
Afraid
Alone
Ambivalent
Angry
Annoyed
Anxious
Apathetic
Astounded
Attractive
Awed
Bad
Betrayed
Bitter
Blissful
Bold
Bored
Brave
Burdened

Calm
Capable
Captivated
Challenged
Charmed
Cheated
Cheerful
Childish
Clever
Combative
Competitive
Condemned
Confident
Confused
Conniving
Conspicuous
Contented
Contrite
Controlled
Cruel
Crushed

Deceitful
Defeated
Defiant
Delighted
Demeaned
Deserving

How Are You Feeling?

Ever have someone tell you to get in touch with your feelings? Well sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on inside of you. So, we found this cool list of feelings to help us all get to the bottom of what’s going inside of us.
Once a day print out the list of feelings and hi-lite all the feelings you felt that day. Do this each day for one week. Make sure you go to our Self-Esteem Tips pages too. They will help you get in touch with your inner voice. Some of the tips deal with how to believe in yourself. Other tips explore things like: why anger is necessary; how to avoid complainers; and, how to stop all the competition.

After one week if you see your feelings getting happier stay on that path. If you notice that your feelings are staying stuck or are sad and depressed, tell a friend, a parent, a counselor … someone you can trust. Most of our friends and the trusted adults we know have been through times of sadness or despair. Hearing their advice on how they overcame what we’re going through can help a lot. If you are like a lot of us, you may even feel like you are totally alone in your pain and confusion. But, in fact, millions of people go through tough times. Getting through tough times really do make us stronger. Getting through the tough times also enable us to be able to help others who are going through it. We can actually help our friends because we know what it feels like to be in the sh*! and how great it feels to have made it through.

It helps so much to reach out.

ADVICE: Don’t let other people control how you feel. You have the power within you to find joy and happiness. It helps if you hang with friends who are happy. Stay away from those that thrive on drama, anger and acting out.

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: Do you want to be happy or is there something inside of you that likes being sad?

IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY DO THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY. What brings you joy? Email your advice for finding joy to: PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org. We’ll share your wisdom on with youth all over the world.

How Are You Feeling?

Ever have someone tell you to get in touch with your feelings? Well sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on inside of you. So, we found this cool list of feelings to help us all get to the bottom of what’s going inside of us.
Once a day print out the list of feelings and hi-lite all the feelings you felt that day. Do this each day for one week. Make sure you go to our Self-Esteem Tips pages too. They will help you get in touch with your inner voice. Some of the tips deal with how to believe in yourself. Other tips explore things like: why anger is necessary; how to avoid complainers; and, how to stop all the competition.

After one week if you see your feelings getting happier stay on that path. If you notice that your feelings are staying stuck or are sad and depressed, tell a friend, a parent, a counselor … someone you can trust. Most of our friends and the trusted adults we know have been through times of sadness or despair. Hearing their advice on how they overcame what we’re going through can help a lot. If you are like a lot of us, you may even feel like you are totally alone in your pain and confusion. But, in fact, millions of people go through tough times. Getting through tough times really do make us stronger. Getting through the tough times also enable us to be able to help others who are going through it. We can actually help our friends because we know what it feels like to be in the sh*! and how great it feels to have made it through.

It helps so much to reach out.

ADVICE: Don’t let other people control how you feel. You have the power within you to find joy and happiness. It helps if you hang with friends who are happy. Stay away from those that thrive on drama, anger and acting out.

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: Do you want to be happy or is there something inside of you that likes being sad?

IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY DO THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY. What brings you joy? Email your advice for finding joy to: PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org. We’ll share your wisdom on with youth all over the world.

How Are You Feeling?

Ever have someone tell you to get in touch with your feelings? Well sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on inside of you. So, we found this cool list of feelings to help us all get to the bottom of what’s going inside of us.
Once a day print out the list of feelings and hi-lite all the feelings you felt that day. Do this each day for one week. Make sure you go to our Self-Esteem Tips pages too. They will help you get in touch with your inner voice. Some of the tips deal with how to believe in yourself. Other tips explore things like: why anger is necessary; how to avoid complainers; and, how to stop all the competition.

After one week if you see your feelings getting happier stay on that path. If you notice that your feelings are staying stuck or are sad and depressed, tell a friend, a parent, a counselor … someone you can trust. Most of our friends and the trusted adults we know have been through times of sadness or despair. Hearing their advice on how they overcame what we’re going through can help a lot. If you are like a lot of us, you may even feel like you are totally alone in your pain and confusion. But, in fact, millions of people go through tough times. Getting through tough times really do make us stronger. Getting through the tough times also enable us to be able to help others who are going through it. We can actually help our friends because we know what it feels like to be in the sh*! and how great it feels to have made it through.

It helps so much to reach out.

ADVICE: Don’t let other people control how you feel. You have the power within you to find joy and happiness. It helps if you hang with friends who are happy. Stay away from those that thrive on drama, anger and acting out.

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: Do you want to be happy or is there something inside of you that likes being sad?

IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY DO THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY. What brings you joy? Email your advice for finding joy to: PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org. We’ll share your wisdom on with youth all over the world.

How Are You Feeling?

Ever have someone tell you to get in touch with your feelings? Well sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on inside of you. So, we found this cool list of feelings to help us all get to the bottom of what’s going inside of us.
Once a day print out the list of feelings and hi-lite all the feelings you felt that day. Do this each day for one week. Make sure you go to our Self-Esteem Tips pages too. They will help you get in touch with your inner voice. Some of the tips deal with how to believe in yourself. Other tips explore things like: why anger is necessary; how to avoid complainers; and, how to stop all the competition.

After one week if you see your feelings getting happier stay on that path. If you notice that your feelings are staying stuck or are sad and depressed, tell a friend, a parent, a counselor … someone you can trust. Most of our friends and the trusted adults we know have been through times of sadness or despair. Hearing their advice on how they overcame what we’re going through can help a lot. If you are like a lot of us, you may even feel like you are totally alone in your pain and confusion. But, in fact, millions of people go through tough times. Getting through tough times really do make us stronger. Getting through the tough times also enable us to be able to help others who are going through it. We can actually help our friends because we know what it feels like to be in the sh*! and how great it feels to have made it through.

It helps so much to reach out.

ADVICE: Don’t let other people control how you feel. You have the power within you to find joy and happiness. It helps if you hang with friends who are happy. Stay away from those that thrive on drama, anger and acting out.

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION: Do you want to be happy or is there something inside of you that likes being sad?

IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY DO THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY. What brings you joy? Email your advice for finding joy to: PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org. We’ll share your wisdom on with youth all over the world.