Month: April 2023

Darrell Hammond

DARRELL HAMMOND quote from the Cracked Up documentary

“I think it’s important to see a qualified trauma therapist. Treating trauma as opposed to other less serious conditions. You get hit by a car you’re not ashamed. You’re struggling mentally you feel ashamed. It’s silly, ya know something happened to me. You say something is systematic progressive and fatal, you’re talking about a number of illnesses that kill effectively. And trauma is one.”

Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

DR. BESSEL VAN DER KOLK quoted in the documentary, Cracked UP

“Trauma is usually about a victim trying to make amends for the perpetrator. The most important thing is to give it to yourself. As vulnerable, As scared, As angry, As frozen as you were and forgive yourself for all the ways you have tried to survive. So just take care of that. Just learn to forgive yourself from all the things you have done in order to survive. That’s a big job.” -Cracked Up Documentary

Zachary Levi

ZACHARY LEVI quote on MTV Awards

“Deep down we all still have that kid in us and there is no reason why that kid can’t be a superhero or a Lizzo… So, if you are like 4-year-old me and you are sitting at home watching this thinking that maybe you’ll love yourself one day and that you can finally be someone here, stop doing that and start living yourself right now. It will change your life and that will change the world I guarantee that.”

Noah Centineo

NOAH CENTINEO quote on MTV Awards

“I did a little show called the Fosters and over the years since I did that show I learned that external things don’t actually make you happy. They didn’t make me happy. I actually was like really really upset while doing that show. Not because of the show it was a amazing show. I just wasn’t happy with all these things outside of myself and I found that truly things that made me happy that actually fulfilled me was not having a successful career. It was doing what I loved and giving back to other people.”

Kal Penn

KAL PENN quote in People Magazine

He had no idea he was ‘different’ until a playground bully called him the N-word in kindergarten.

“I didn’t even know what that word meant. But I knew that he thought I’m supposed to feel different and that was somehow bad. But I didn’t feel that way in real life.”

What he did feel was a call to the stage, finding his middle school drama club a place of refuge from bullying that targeted “kids like me or Praveen or Ed… because we were supposedly the weird, ugly, fat, skinny, dark fill-in-the-blank-different kids.”

Kal Penn (rejecting a friend’s suggestion of Kal Pacino) and soldiered through racist encounter after racist encounter. -People

Kheris Rogers

KHERIS ROGERS quote in GL Magazine

“My mom pulled me out of a school where I was one of only a few black students (I was being bullied because of my race) and switched me to a predominantly black school. Problem solved? Not exactly. Suddenly, I was being mocked and harrassed not because I was a minority, but because of my darker skin tone. That’s when I realized what colorism truly was: being belittled based on the specific shade of your skin. I was called names like ‘burnt biscuit’ and told that I’ve ‘been in the oven too long’  by classmates who were lighter than me. Those were hurtful ways of saying that I was too dark and therefore not as ‘pretty’ as a light-skinned black girl or an actual white girl. Because, I learned even black people have been historically conditioned to idolize white beauty standards. It was especially painful because I thought we were supposed to uplift each other. I thought I was in a safe space with my peers. But I could still feel the sting of racist attacks and taunting bringing me down. My grandmother from Louisiana, so she’s always coming up with fun and clever ways to phrase her feelings. When she first told my sister and me to ‘flex in our complexions,’ I didn’t realize how important her message was. But after being teased for so long, it sunk and it has been a part of me ever since.

You’ll find colorism in unfair treatment in the school system (dark-skinned girls are three times more likely to be suspended from school than our lighter-skinned peers). It pains me to see so many young black queens and kings trying to dim their own light because they feel pressure to conform to what the world has told them is beautiful. But I see that changing, and I’m going to be part of that change. I hope you’ll join me. I want you to know that if you feel different, or anything less than proud of your complexion, you need now, more than ever to find your allies and stand by each other’s side.”

Laura Harrier

LAURA HARRIER quote in Cosmopolitan Magazine

“I definitely believe that mental health care should be prioritized just as much as physical health. There’s been such a long history of ignoring mental health problems, of saying, ‘Oh, just suck it up’ or ‘I’m a strong black woman. That doesn’t happen to me.’ All of these tropes that we’ve been taught over generations, when actually, I think given generational trauma, of course there are a lot of mental health issues with the black community. I’ve been working with a really amazing Loa Angeles based organization called BEAM, which stands for Black Emotional And Mental Health Collective. They help people find resources, therapists, and also natural care, like Reiki. I try to meditate. I can’t say that I’m the best with my track record of doing it every day, but I try to at least do some deep breathing. I noticed I literally forget to breathe, which sounds wild, but sometimes I’m like ‘Wait, I haven’t taken a real breath all day.’ and just taking 30 seconds to sit and do deep belly breathing is a game changer. Also, I think it’s so common to talk only about self-care as meditation, yoga, and working out, which are all important, but sometimes self-care is having a glass of wine with your best friend and laughing and watching s***** reality TV . Watching The Bachelor and drinking wine with my girls is awesome. Sometimes that’s the self-care that you need.

Holding emotion in is not only not good mentally but not good physically. Physical manifestations of stress are very real. I’ve had weird little skin things or backaches and it’s like, okay, what is the actual roof cause of this? Maybe it’s because I’m super stressed or upset and I’m not dealing with it?”